7Tips for a Successful Marriage
When I married my life partner, we were very happy and felt like we had achieved our long-life desire.
Life was very interesting and we looked forward to a blissful relationship together. None wanted to leave the sight of the other and each day was a special event to us. We did our chores together and planned our projects in one accord.
After sometime, I gave birth to our first born which made our relationship even more interesting. Many more wonderful things have happened in our lives but I must confess that it has not been all rosy. There have been those grey days in our marriage life and through them we have learnt a number of important things which I wish to share with you. I call them tips to a successful marriage.
For your marriage to be successful and, interesting, it is wise to practice the following habits;
· Avoid dogmatism. In all relationships, both partners in one way or the other make mistakes. Do not let perfectionism ruin your overall great relationship. Be kind to yourself and to your soul mate.
· Take good care of yourself. You can only give what you have. So, take good care of yourself under all circumstances so that you do not end up depleted with nothing more to offer. Replenish your mind with what interests you, eat healthy, groom well and always rest when you need to.
· Have a progress mindset. Be willing to learn from the challenges in your relationship and work towards making things better for you and your spouse.
· Practice forgiveness. Be willing to forgive, not just your spouse but also yourself. This will help you carry on with the good in your relationship without focusing on past mistakes.
· Flirt with your partner more often. Send each other romantic texts, pat him on the butt whenever you get a chance, give her a long lingering kiss in the kitchen and then remember to let that ‘simmer’ turn into a boil. Regular sex is important in your relationship.
· Allow yourself to be vulnerable with each other. Opening your heart to your spouse and sharing your deepest concerns creates real intimacy and connection. Share your true feelings as this will help create a bond that lasts.
· Communicate. Learn your partners ‘love language’ by observing the physical way in which he or she shows love so that you will always know how to speak to him or her. Creating time for heath conversations is very important.
Having said the above, who doesn’t want their marriage to last a life time?For this to happen, it is important to note that marriage is a very delicate affair that only the daring can handle to the end. This therefore calls for commitment in ensuring daily renewal of your love bonds to ensure a happy and enjoyable relationship. This is however not rocket science and all you need to do is be independent and always honest with your partner. For your marriage to work, please don’t lean on your spouse 100%!’you are going to break their back’. Be yourself and you will always have something new to bring to the table at dinner time. Be it a new idea or achievement and this will make your relationship quite interesting.
